Girls opinion on - What Type Of Guys Turns You On?, Taken from a forum…
if u are talking about physical appearance, then it would be cute, boyish, fit and toned body with 6 packs, tan..
as for characters, those very gentlemen type, like open the doors/car doors, pull out the seat for u... and also must be humourous and easy going... not forgetting generous.. i hate stingy and calculative guys..jus like my SO..haiz..
physically, would die for a man with looks to kill for, a good body with six pack abs, suave..... back to reality, a pleasant looking gentleman will attract me.
i like rain's bod
I doubt guys with big belly turns any gals on~
brains and gentlemanly guys turn me on BIG TIME!!!!!
looks: always tall n skinny. my bf is lean and got muscles also.. i LIKE.. character: HUMOUROUS, gentlemanly, filial, considerate and sweet.
Brainy and humourous guys are sexy to me... Of cos a sexy smile turns me on too
i like pale girlish guys
hmmm..charming,energetic, nice smile, make me feel happy and secure when i am with him..can make me smile and laugh, easygoing, gentleman.....
Guys with nice hair, clean look , wear specs (especially those rim-less kind), dress well, wear nice shoes and well mannered. Most importantly, not fat, oily and sticky.
if looks alone.. someone who looks like edison chen wld def be a turn on for me.. hehe
CHARMING, STYLISH HEHHEHE
Sunshine look, nice smile!
Phyically-> Tall, Skinny, Pale, Neat, Clean
like someone who is quietly confident and not too showy or flirty...
I love botaks!!! Botak as in skinhead or very very short hair... NOT BALDING PLS!And if the botak comes with a fantastic body... Then i'll surely *drOolsSs* LoL~~
Clever guys!! I can't resist guys who smells nice too
he's gotta be intelligent, a gentleman, gotta have a good sense of humor, easygoing, someone who makes me happy and who has a "sunshine personality"
Guys who read... and I don't mean read comic books only Guys who are kindhearted to others. Gentlemanly guys.
i like bye eyes and dimpled guys. but apparently.. girls usually dont get the guys of the kind they want most of the time.
guys who are sensitive to pple's feelings, understanding, gentlemanly, concerned about keeping a tidy appearance. there is too much to be shared.. haha.
charming. out-spoken. friendly. nice smile. sunshine type of guys
like someone who is quietly confident and not too showy or flirty...2nd that. Quietly confident, and don't boast and flaunt what they have. Very steady, can look you straight in the eye and thinks thro' his words before saying - says what he means and means what he say. Someone with substance and comfortable in his own skin. Need not be handsome, but this kind of person just has a kind of charisma that catch people's attention and make them pay attention to him.
Men in shirts! especially expensive looking shirts. hmm..
i like guys who has dimples, quite muscular, gentlemanly, understanding. the quietly confident too!
I prefer guys that are rather tanned, wear specs ( not sure why but I like guys that wear specs), able to conduct a good conversation and smart in the outlook, able to dress well and of course, we a good smile!
Like guys tall tall, wear shirt and jean .. shoulder fit fit one... heeheedreaming only lah as my currenty SO is not as above mentioned..
someone who is humorous, caring, gentlemanly, sweet..able to make me smile just being himself and knowledgeable.. need not be very out spoken... but a thinker...
i like boys who are smart, knowledgeable and with self-confidence
gentlemen with strong arms. their strong arms always protray a sense of security when being with them. gentlemen definitely too. must be able to think of the welfare of girls.
average lookin will do.. often smiling type.hate guy tat always give black face..do not smoke..gentleman..kind heart..romantic towards me ONLY
Boyish, articulate and gentleman guy
tanned and muscular body, wear collared shirts, witty plus brains , confident
tall, gentlemanly, charming, cute, boyish smile, humorous, talkative, make me smile and make me happy.
guys with dimples, tanned bod, charming, gentlemenly, cute, humorous...foxfoo, most gals if not all, like gentlemenly guys...some guys i've met r def ungentlemenly...e.g. don send the gal home after a date...etc...
Physically: -tall 1.76-1.8m only-tanned-athletic (toned and muscular but not bulky like bodybuilders please)-double eyelids-perfect eyesight-nice smile (nice teeth)-dimples-hairy legs nice short hairCharacter and personality:-christian and a man of God-integrity-committed-honest-kind-chivalrous-romantic-loving-helpful-thoughtful and considerate-respectful of girls-family manmy darling has all the above qualities but then again i'm biased
intelligence and humour and chemistry lor.physically, i like guys with INTENSE EYES!like michael scofield frm prison break. *swwooons* and dr mcsteamy from grey's anatomy. haha.
Confident and neat appearance I think is quite basic ba....Tall, fit, humour and also boyish smile will be bonus...
good looking ones definitely turn me on BUT as for whether it last or not will depends on the way a guy carries himself... i'll listen to what he says... this will decide whether he indeed turn me on or not..
the strong silent type. MUST be tanned. good complexion, nice teeth, dimples!!!
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
What You Ought To Know Before Getting Married?
It's the same story with the same fairy tale ending. Boy meets girl. Love. Kisses. Miss made Mrs. And everyone assumes that they'll live happily ever after. But do they? If you don't want your marriage to go wrong you should understand that contrary to popular belief, nothing goes right in marriage unless you are mentally prepared for life together. Pointers to help you.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right.
This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind. A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own.
Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
About The Author
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of http://www.love-lectures.com where he provides dating tips and relationship advice for couples and singles in building healthy and successful relationships.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right.
This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind. A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own.
Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
About The Author
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of http://www.love-lectures.com where he provides dating tips and relationship advice for couples and singles in building healthy and successful relationships.
Friday, September 21, 2007
Get rid of fear for rejection
Go ahead and feed your mind with this question... "What are somethings that prevent a S'pore man from succeeding with women?" List your thoughts down and go ask the question to a few guys youknow. I can be certain that if you compare thoughts with them, there's one COMMON point that keeps surfacing. It's...... fear of rejection.
By that, I mean some guys fear getting rejected during various courtship stages. The 'fear' can raise it's yucky head... at the approach... or at the time you want to call a lady out... or when you want to get a gal as your girlfriend. So the moment this fear appears, most attempts to move forward with a woman are reduced.Now, before we talk about handling fear of rejection, let's see how rejection is being 'generally defined'.
Most Singapore guys would see rejection to mean - "being refused". That meaning is not so bad. The bad part is when -1) They allow the meaning to CONSUME them and in doing so... 2) They project the meaning onto themselves ahead of time (even before they attempt anything with a woman). On the other hand, another group of men - those who ARE GOOD with women, tend to not accept the generally accepted meaning of rejection. If they receive a cold response from a lady, they do not see it as"being refused" (they'll NEVER see it that way). Instead, these men define the situation as "If a girl's response is not positive, she is essentially giving me the passport to talk to and attract ANOTHER girl. "So it's NOT about "being refused", it's that these men gave themselves permission to interact with women, to see eventually which woman enjoys interaction and which one doesn't. That's all there is to it. And they won't project ahead of time whether rejection will happen, because frankly, no one can say what will happen until an attempt is made.Are there more ways to deal with this fear of rejection that seem to plague 9 out of 10 guys? Of course, yet it must always start from the foundation of NOTaccepting rejection to mean what most guys out there think.
By that, I mean some guys fear getting rejected during various courtship stages. The 'fear' can raise it's yucky head... at the approach... or at the time you want to call a lady out... or when you want to get a gal as your girlfriend. So the moment this fear appears, most attempts to move forward with a woman are reduced.Now, before we talk about handling fear of rejection, let's see how rejection is being 'generally defined'.
Most Singapore guys would see rejection to mean - "being refused". That meaning is not so bad. The bad part is when -1) They allow the meaning to CONSUME them and in doing so... 2) They project the meaning onto themselves ahead of time (even before they attempt anything with a woman). On the other hand, another group of men - those who ARE GOOD with women, tend to not accept the generally accepted meaning of rejection. If they receive a cold response from a lady, they do not see it as"being refused" (they'll NEVER see it that way). Instead, these men define the situation as "If a girl's response is not positive, she is essentially giving me the passport to talk to and attract ANOTHER girl. "So it's NOT about "being refused", it's that these men gave themselves permission to interact with women, to see eventually which woman enjoys interaction and which one doesn't. That's all there is to it. And they won't project ahead of time whether rejection will happen, because frankly, no one can say what will happen until an attempt is made.Are there more ways to deal with this fear of rejection that seem to plague 9 out of 10 guys? Of course, yet it must always start from the foundation of NOTaccepting rejection to mean what most guys out there think.
Friday, September 7, 2007
How To Keep The Conversation Going With Women
If there's one 'social-life destroying' problem that most guys faceother than how to approach women, it's... ... keeping a conversation going after you approach.
You may even seen or experience the following 'live' before youreyes - guy starts a conversation with a gal with a great strongline. But in a while, the conversation is plagued with awkwardpauses or 10 second long quiet breaks.
Typically, such a scene will drag on abit. Then, either the guy orgal will use the "see you around" exit to cushion any morequietness.
OK, let's see what can be done to prevent such a scene.
Understand this, keeping a conversation going is NOT limited to thefirst time when you meet a lady. It's an art that has to be sharpened when you're out with any women on future dates.
You'd be lucky if the gal herself has tons to talk about but... is that always the case? Nope. You're bound to encounter some gals who require you to lead the conversation first and gradually warm up to you. So here aresome "silver bullets" as a backup in the event you sense a quiet air coming. I 'm taking into account some topics in the past that surfaced when I had engaging conversations with women. Plus, almost without fail, all the men I knew who are good with women always have some topics loaded in their brains.
These include (but NOT limited to):
- Get her to talk about which country she's fly to in the past. It's used just the way it is, just say "Which country have you been to in the past?"Let her talk. Stretch further by asking her what are those places/the people there like. Discover which places she'd like to go in future. (It's no sin to be curious) Then tell her where you personally have travelled to. At this point, she's gradually warmed up and will ask you in return about those places you've been to.
- A versatile topic. Ask her which movie had she watched this year. Which is the best one she thinks. Which sucked. Talk about your own thoughts. From there, you can springboard to a sub-topic of who she thinks is her fave actor/actress.
- In this case, it's a "What did you do last Christmas?" topic. One variation is "Where did you go to celebrate during new year'seve last year?" Gal's answers range from celebration at friend's place, stayed athome, went partying, got drunk etc. Bear in mind there're always things to continue from there. Let her elaborate. Share your own story of what you did then. I can go on and on but these topics/sub-topics are just a few"emergency" backups in case you sense silences coming.
1st point to Note: The above is NOT the only path to maintain conversations. Use them first but there are other ways to make a dialogue "re-generative"... where conversations take on a life of it's own and fresh topics automatically spawn.
2nd Point to Note: It's useless to continue talking and talking. While keeping conversations going with women, you have to ATTRACT them. The key is to talk AND attract. It'll take an entire module to cover that (check the section belowfor that). For now, another tip to know how to keep conversation going is to eavesdrop on people (preferably strangers) while they are engaged in a dialogue. That's right, be a practical student of interactions.
Listen to two people (can be 2 girls, one guy one gal etc), notice what gets both of them hooked when they're talking. You'll defintely obtain clues as to what makes a conversation indulging. Study these clues, refine and use it for yourself.
You may even seen or experience the following 'live' before youreyes - guy starts a conversation with a gal with a great strongline. But in a while, the conversation is plagued with awkwardpauses or 10 second long quiet breaks.
Typically, such a scene will drag on abit. Then, either the guy orgal will use the "see you around" exit to cushion any morequietness.
OK, let's see what can be done to prevent such a scene.
Understand this, keeping a conversation going is NOT limited to thefirst time when you meet a lady. It's an art that has to be sharpened when you're out with any women on future dates.
You'd be lucky if the gal herself has tons to talk about but... is that always the case? Nope. You're bound to encounter some gals who require you to lead the conversation first and gradually warm up to you. So here aresome "silver bullets" as a backup in the event you sense a quiet air coming. I 'm taking into account some topics in the past that surfaced when I had engaging conversations with women. Plus, almost without fail, all the men I knew who are good with women always have some topics loaded in their brains.
These include (but NOT limited to):
1st point to Note: The above is NOT the only path to maintain conversations. Use them first but there are other ways to make a dialogue "re-generative"... where conversations take on a life of it's own and fresh topics automatically spawn.
2nd Point to Note: It's useless to continue talking and talking. While keeping conversations going with women, you have to ATTRACT them. The key is to talk AND attract. It'll take an entire module to cover that (check the section belowfor that). For now, another tip to know how to keep conversation going is to eavesdrop on people (preferably strangers) while they are engaged in a dialogue. That's right, be a practical student of interactions.
Listen to two people (can be 2 girls, one guy one gal etc), notice what gets both of them hooked when they're talking. You'll defintely obtain clues as to what makes a conversation indulging. Study these clues, refine and use it for yourself.
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
3 Short Words Will Change Your Dating Life...
Yes I'm aware... the topic sounds fishy, as though somebody'swhispering in your ear "Hey, chant these words and you can live to3000 years old!"
But hear me out for a second. In my life, I've met a number of men. Their outer appearance rangefrom ordinary to 'icky'... Yet, these men happen to BE WITH stunningly beautiful women that other guys would stare at more than once. Thing is, it didn't make sense to me years back. My mind tried to solve -"There must be ONE point of time where these men fearlessly make aFIRST CONTACT with the lady they're eventually with. But how did they do it despite their 'limitations'?"And so began my process of making friends and talking to these dudes. I wanted get ideas straight from the horse's mouth.
Here's the fun part... if you've carried out such investigations as I have, you can't help but notice such men... seem to follow a very different set of 'personal rules'. One of which is - they constantly have a "Nothing to lose" rule when it comes to interacting with and dating women.
It's been years but I recalled one of these men say (and the phrase is still kept in my journal), "People with nothing to lose are theones who win more than the rest."That was how it all began to make sense where men without the gift of good looks can "outperform" guys who have better features (and deeper pockets) when it comes to meeting and dating the ladies. It's all about NOT putting weight on any interaction with women. NOT thinking you may lose anything. So these are the 3 words... "Nothing to lose". N.T.L
Simple few words but "lethal".As a drill, carry out a full-scale "N.T.L War" against your ownmind. Name a list of things you THINK you might lose if you were togo up and talk to a woman... or getting a lady out (it'll probablybe less than 3 things. If it's more than 3... you probably worry too much). Question the list of things. It's likely you'll find some of them NOT being a big deal after all. Strike these off. As for those remaining, ask yourself what is required to counter each of them? Then go get the necessary stuff and counter.Carry out this "Nothing to lose" drill and see how your mind startsto let loose. Encounters with women are defintely more enjoyablefrom here on.
But hear me out for a second. In my life, I've met a number of men. Their outer appearance rangefrom ordinary to 'icky'... Yet, these men happen to BE WITH stunningly beautiful women that other guys would stare at more than once. Thing is, it didn't make sense to me years back. My mind tried to solve -"There must be ONE point of time where these men fearlessly make aFIRST CONTACT with the lady they're eventually with. But how did they do it despite their 'limitations'?"And so began my process of making friends and talking to these dudes. I wanted get ideas straight from the horse's mouth.
Here's the fun part... if you've carried out such investigations as I have, you can't help but notice such men... seem to follow a very different set of 'personal rules'. One of which is - they constantly have a "Nothing to lose" rule when it comes to interacting with and dating women.
It's been years but I recalled one of these men say (and the phrase is still kept in my journal), "People with nothing to lose are theones who win more than the rest."That was how it all began to make sense where men without the gift of good looks can "outperform" guys who have better features (and deeper pockets) when it comes to meeting and dating the ladies. It's all about NOT putting weight on any interaction with women. NOT thinking you may lose anything. So these are the 3 words... "Nothing to lose". N.T.L
Simple few words but "lethal".As a drill, carry out a full-scale "N.T.L War" against your ownmind. Name a list of things you THINK you might lose if you were togo up and talk to a woman... or getting a lady out (it'll probablybe less than 3 things. If it's more than 3... you probably worry too much). Question the list of things. It's likely you'll find some of them NOT being a big deal after all. Strike these off. As for those remaining, ask yourself what is required to counter each of them? Then go get the necessary stuff and counter.Carry out this "Nothing to lose" drill and see how your mind startsto let loose. Encounters with women are defintely more enjoyablefrom here on.
Friday, August 31, 2007
Dating Advice: Get What You Want In a Man
My good friend had an uncanny knack for getting what she wanted. Whether she was in the market for a particular pair of shoes or a certain kind of man, she scored every time.
When she decided she wanted to get married, she wrote a detailed list of the qualities she expected in a husband (I did the same thing, but the qualities I chose were different from hers).
She wanted a man who: Owned his own house Possessed a college degree Made xx dollars per year Had to be willing to have at least four children. On top of that, he would buy her an engagement ring of a minimum of two carats with a Marquis cut, set in yellow gold with platinum prongs.
She also listed another goal. She wanted to achieve a 22-inch waistline-- so she could stick it to the daughter of her mother's best friend, a girl she had been compared to all her life, when she walked down the aisle on her wedding day.
The upshot?
She did look smashing in her wedding dress, she did get the ring, the house, the children, the salary--all of it. What she also got was a man who works most of the time. When he isn't working, he does not help her with the children, two of whom suffer from developmental delays. He is insulting, belittling, and unkind. He calls her fat and ugly. Social Services appeared at their home after their daughter reported a "domestic dispute" to her teacher.
Hey, but at least she still has the ring.
While it's fundamentally important to know what you want in a man (it makes it so much easier to recognize the right one when he shows up, and it also increases the chances that he will show up), it's critical to choose qualities that go deeper than "owns his own house."
When I drew up my own list, I decided the man I'd marry had to be:
Faithful
Loving
Reliable
Successful
Fun
And those qualities sum up the guy I married (after years of dating losers, schmoozers, and No-Show Joes). You, too, deserve to spend your life with a man who loves you, supports your dreams, and makes your happiness a priority. Choose wisely.
When she decided she wanted to get married, she wrote a detailed list of the qualities she expected in a husband (I did the same thing, but the qualities I chose were different from hers).
She wanted a man who: Owned his own house Possessed a college degree Made xx dollars per year Had to be willing to have at least four children. On top of that, he would buy her an engagement ring of a minimum of two carats with a Marquis cut, set in yellow gold with platinum prongs.
She also listed another goal. She wanted to achieve a 22-inch waistline-- so she could stick it to the daughter of her mother's best friend, a girl she had been compared to all her life, when she walked down the aisle on her wedding day.
The upshot?
She did look smashing in her wedding dress, she did get the ring, the house, the children, the salary--all of it. What she also got was a man who works most of the time. When he isn't working, he does not help her with the children, two of whom suffer from developmental delays. He is insulting, belittling, and unkind. He calls her fat and ugly. Social Services appeared at their home after their daughter reported a "domestic dispute" to her teacher.
Hey, but at least she still has the ring.
While it's fundamentally important to know what you want in a man (it makes it so much easier to recognize the right one when he shows up, and it also increases the chances that he will show up), it's critical to choose qualities that go deeper than "owns his own house."
When I drew up my own list, I decided the man I'd marry had to be:
Faithful
Loving
Reliable
Successful
Fun
And those qualities sum up the guy I married (after years of dating losers, schmoozers, and No-Show Joes). You, too, deserve to spend your life with a man who loves you, supports your dreams, and makes your happiness a priority. Choose wisely.
What You Ought To Know Before Getting Married?
It's the same story with the same fairy tale ending. Boy meets girl. Love. Kisses. Miss made Mrs. And everyone assumes that they'll live happily ever after. But do they? If you don't want your marriage to go wrong you should understand that contrary to popular belief, nothing goes right in marriage unless you are mentally prepared for life together. Pointers to help you.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right. This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind.
A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own. Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right. This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind.
A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own. Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
Does Being a Nice Guy Get You More Dates?
The answer to this question should be a resounding 'Yes' but unfortunately when you are working with human emotions, there's no sure thing and this is the case when it comes to the way women think about nice guys! Nice guys are attractive to many women, but whether they get more dates than those guys who aren't so nice is relative to the amount of women they are interested in and want to date. Although there are women who find nice guys sexy, there are also those women who think that a nice guy must by definition be boring!
Nice guys aren't necessarily boring however. Being polite and caring about others isn't boring - it may be a little outdated in a society where the survival of the fittest and those who dare win are the cultural norms, but that doesn't make it boring. What a nice guy does mean is that the women they date should find that they are never stood up, they are never cheated on and that they are secure in their relationships. These three things are often missing from relationships with guys who walk on the dangerous side of life.
Women who are looking for adventure won't be interested in 'nice guys'. They want guys who are prepared to make them feel that they are a little wild rather than like a princess! The nice guy however wins in the long run because when it comes to settling down most women would choose a nice guy over a wild one for their life partner - realizing that this is the guy who will bring them both emotional and financial security.
Just as nice girls have a tendency to attract wild guys who will break their hearts, there are many nice guys who can attest to the fact that wild girls are also out there looking to mess with the emotions of a nice guy. There are also a number of ex nice guys out there who changed their persona having been messed around by girls who abused their nice guy image. There's a lot of truth in the old cliché about opposites attracting - and it's certainly true in the case of nice guys and wild girls (as well as vice versa), at least in short term relationships.
Nice guys may not always get more dates than their wilder counterparts, but they are more likely to end up in more permanent relationships which is with a either a nice girl or a wild girl they have tamed! If you're a nice guy, and you feel that it's not working for you, hang in there - hang in there, the odds are you'll still come out a winner!
Nice guys aren't necessarily boring however. Being polite and caring about others isn't boring - it may be a little outdated in a society where the survival of the fittest and those who dare win are the cultural norms, but that doesn't make it boring. What a nice guy does mean is that the women they date should find that they are never stood up, they are never cheated on and that they are secure in their relationships. These three things are often missing from relationships with guys who walk on the dangerous side of life.
Women who are looking for adventure won't be interested in 'nice guys'. They want guys who are prepared to make them feel that they are a little wild rather than like a princess! The nice guy however wins in the long run because when it comes to settling down most women would choose a nice guy over a wild one for their life partner - realizing that this is the guy who will bring them both emotional and financial security.
Just as nice girls have a tendency to attract wild guys who will break their hearts, there are many nice guys who can attest to the fact that wild girls are also out there looking to mess with the emotions of a nice guy. There are also a number of ex nice guys out there who changed their persona having been messed around by girls who abused their nice guy image. There's a lot of truth in the old cliché about opposites attracting - and it's certainly true in the case of nice guys and wild girls (as well as vice versa), at least in short term relationships.
Nice guys may not always get more dates than their wilder counterparts, but they are more likely to end up in more permanent relationships which is with a either a nice girl or a wild girl they have tamed! If you're a nice guy, and you feel that it's not working for you, hang in there - hang in there, the odds are you'll still come out a winner!
Friday, August 17, 2007
A Small Mistake In Getting A Lady's Number...
Too many incidents happened to guys where they pocketed a woman'sphone number... but attempts to get her out after that don't workout well. That includes:- Smsing her and getting zero replies- Calling her and nobody picks up.- She does answer the phone but quickly says "Hey, I'm in ameeting, can't talk now."It's definitely NOT a good feeling. Fact is, it happens often and guys can't help but wonder "Why does she bother giving me her number only to throw such cold responses afterward???" Still, the responsiblity of such an outcome lies more with the male than the female.
What's identified is... usually, after the male gets a gal's number, he bids her goodbye and leaves immediately. This makes him come across to the lady as the dude who "got what he wanted and run."More importantly, the lady begins to wonder... "Did I just looklike one of those girls who give away numbers easily?"... thereforeshe has to 'self protect' by making it not as easy for the guy to get her out when he calls or sms.
The solution? After pocketing a lady's number, chat a while more before leaving. Just one to three minutes will do... it makes a load of difference. This eliminates the thought in her mind that you're one of those guys who bags her number and grin "So long, sucker!". Example: (After exchanging numbers) you say, "We'll keep in touch.By the way, you mentioned just now that you went to Mayday Concertlast week. How was it?" Just chat a little more.The key idea is to - refer back to something from the conversation you had with her. Don't just speed off immediately.
What's identified is... usually, after the male gets a gal's number, he bids her goodbye and leaves immediately. This makes him come across to the lady as the dude who "got what he wanted and run."More importantly, the lady begins to wonder... "Did I just looklike one of those girls who give away numbers easily?"... thereforeshe has to 'self protect' by making it not as easy for the guy to get her out when he calls or sms.
The solution? After pocketing a lady's number, chat a while more before leaving. Just one to three minutes will do... it makes a load of difference. This eliminates the thought in her mind that you're one of those guys who bags her number and grin "So long, sucker!". Example: (After exchanging numbers) you say, "We'll keep in touch.By the way, you mentioned just now that you went to Mayday Concertlast week. How was it?" Just chat a little more.The key idea is to - refer back to something from the conversation you had with her. Don't just speed off immediately.
Friday, August 10, 2007
Make Women Laugh And Fall In Love. Secrets Of Attracting Women With Humor.
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"The Power Of Humor"
I have a question for you. Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a "peculiar" way? (Or maybe both?)
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called “Average, Dull, Boring” for their entire lives. But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest. And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Cosmo... I can ask you to check out the profiles on those dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen... But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man). In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
"Why Make Women Laugh? "
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is JUST something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
You know what? The ability to make any woman laugh and fall in love is inside each of us. Even if your answer to any of those questions is not a confident "YES", you can choose to reclaim your power of humor. You can stop being boring, or average, once and for all.
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It's proven! Humor is the shortcut to attraction...
"Revealed! Closely Guarded Secrets To Attract Beautiful Women Using The Power Of Humor... Guaranteed!"
"The Power Of Humor"
I have a question for you. Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a "peculiar" way? (Or maybe both?)
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called “Average, Dull, Boring” for their entire lives. But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest. And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Cosmo... I can ask you to check out the profiles on those dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen... But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man). In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
"Why Make Women Laugh? "
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is JUST something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
You know what? The ability to make any woman laugh and fall in love is inside each of us. Even if your answer to any of those questions is not a confident "YES", you can choose to reclaim your power of humor. You can stop being boring, or average, once and for all.
Details at :
http://tinyurl.com/29dhq3
Connect With Ladies On Dates With This Strategy...
Now, in this e-letter, I'd like to upload an idea that can increase the amount of bonding you have with a woman the next time you're out on a date.
But first, let's 'investigate' what typically goes on during datesfor most of the guys out there.Usually, a man and a woman's date will involve a lot of 'sitting'. It's often a restaurant where they sit and chat. Once they're done, they'll move on to another place, say a cafe andsit again... repeating the process. And I haven't even mentioned about watching movies in a cinema...another 'sitting session'. There's nothing wrong with 'sit and chat' of course. However, itis certainly wrong if it's the ONLY type of interactivity a manultilizes on the date. What I'm suggesting is you need to ADD a deeper form of interactionwith women on dates.
Other than sitting down, you can move aroundwith her... you get involved in choosing things with her... youbelong to a little 'own world' with her.One suggestion is shopping. But hold on, I'm suggesting......NOT just plain shopping. There's a difference between 'passive shopping' and 'active shopping' when you're on a date. And 'active shopping' is the one that gets you results.
Put it simply, 'passive shopping' is just go to a store with a gal, look around and get out."Active shopping' is when you enter a shop, you toy around with thestuff inside with your date, you try things on for one another, youplay around... dress things up with her. You and the lady are INVOLVED. Eg: Bookstore. Find those horoscope books. Pick one up, hold ittogether with her and explore each others' sign. Giggle together athow real or how phony the things that are written. Then you bringher to another section with those 'personality test' books andstart quizzing one another. That is 'active shopping'.
To compare, 'passive shopping' in a bookstore is when you finger through the rows of books, flip through some and put back, whileshe seperately browse her own books... tell me, where's themale/female involvement? So, as you can imagine, bookstore is just an example. You canconnect with your date in gift shop, cd store, shoe shop etc. The idea is still the same... ... which is - When you and a girl are 'active shopping' from placeto place, her body receives signals that she's been to places and did a lot of things together with you. The amount of connection between you both is therefore... stronger.
Go ahead and use the suggested activity. And I recommend combiningit with some attraction-loaded strategies which appeal to womenmore than other guys can ever dream of. It further rocket-boostsyour attractiveness with her. Seriously, to attract the type of woman you desire, you cannot bejust like 'one of the guys'. You have to become a man who isattractivey different than others.
But first, let's 'investigate' what typically goes on during datesfor most of the guys out there.Usually, a man and a woman's date will involve a lot of 'sitting'. It's often a restaurant where they sit and chat. Once they're done, they'll move on to another place, say a cafe andsit again... repeating the process. And I haven't even mentioned about watching movies in a cinema...another 'sitting session'. There's nothing wrong with 'sit and chat' of course. However, itis certainly wrong if it's the ONLY type of interactivity a manultilizes on the date. What I'm suggesting is you need to ADD a deeper form of interactionwith women on dates.
Other than sitting down, you can move aroundwith her... you get involved in choosing things with her... youbelong to a little 'own world' with her.One suggestion is shopping. But hold on, I'm suggesting......NOT just plain shopping. There's a difference between 'passive shopping' and 'active shopping' when you're on a date. And 'active shopping' is the one that gets you results.
Put it simply, 'passive shopping' is just go to a store with a gal, look around and get out."Active shopping' is when you enter a shop, you toy around with thestuff inside with your date, you try things on for one another, youplay around... dress things up with her. You and the lady are INVOLVED. Eg: Bookstore. Find those horoscope books. Pick one up, hold ittogether with her and explore each others' sign. Giggle together athow real or how phony the things that are written. Then you bringher to another section with those 'personality test' books andstart quizzing one another. That is 'active shopping'.
To compare, 'passive shopping' in a bookstore is when you finger through the rows of books, flip through some and put back, whileshe seperately browse her own books... tell me, where's themale/female involvement? So, as you can imagine, bookstore is just an example. You canconnect with your date in gift shop, cd store, shoe shop etc. The idea is still the same... ... which is - When you and a girl are 'active shopping' from placeto place, her body receives signals that she's been to places and did a lot of things together with you. The amount of connection between you both is therefore... stronger.
Go ahead and use the suggested activity. And I recommend combiningit with some attraction-loaded strategies which appeal to womenmore than other guys can ever dream of. It further rocket-boostsyour attractiveness with her. Seriously, to attract the type of woman you desire, you cannot bejust like 'one of the guys'. You have to become a man who isattractivey different than others.
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Self Esteem
A speaker once started off a seminar by asking a room full of 200 entry level marketers which one of them wanted a crisp $100 bill. Everywhere in the room, hands went up. He said, “I’m going to give this $100 bill to one of you but first let me do this.” He then crumpled up the note. He asked, “Who still wants it?” Everyone again put up a hand. So he said, “Ok, what if I do this?” He then dropped it on the ground and began grinding it with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty and said, “Ok, now who still wants it? Again, all the hands went up.
The speaker smiled. “My friends, you have all learned a valuable lesson today. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It is still worth $100.” Many times in our lives we are crumpled, dropped and feel like we’ve been ground into the dirt by decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. No matter what has happened or what WILL happen, you will never ever lose your value. You are special. Don’t ever forget that. Never let yesterday’s disappointments overshadow tomorrow’s dreams.
If you’re holding back from entering a new relationship because you feel wrung out by a previous one, think about what you just read and know that you have value and that value will never diminish. You might have lost out on a former partner but there’s a better one waiting for you; you just have to take the first step to look.
The speaker smiled. “My friends, you have all learned a valuable lesson today. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It is still worth $100.” Many times in our lives we are crumpled, dropped and feel like we’ve been ground into the dirt by decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. No matter what has happened or what WILL happen, you will never ever lose your value. You are special. Don’t ever forget that. Never let yesterday’s disappointments overshadow tomorrow’s dreams.
If you’re holding back from entering a new relationship because you feel wrung out by a previous one, think about what you just read and know that you have value and that value will never diminish. You might have lost out on a former partner but there’s a better one waiting for you; you just have to take the first step to look.
Big No-No's In Your Relationship with A Woman, Which She Secretly Wish You Knew!
There are things that women want men to know but do not tell them. This is going to mean the difference between a good relationship and a bad one. If men could only know about these things that are big no-nos and knew what women wanted, they would be able to have happier relationships with the woman in their life.
1) Giving Respect is as Important as Getting It One thing is respect. Women want to have respect. When it comes to respecting women, some men are not so good at it. This may end up resulting in them losing out in the relationship. It is important to show respect to a woman that you are involved with or any woman for that matter. Give them an opportunity to see that you can be a good guy and that you can respect what they believe and let them have their own feelings about things. Respect is going to be shown through actions. You can do nice things for a woman like opening up the door, giving up your seat or talking to her differently with passion and concern. It is not acceptable to just fake some charm on a first date. You need to be real and up front about how you are going to be in the relationship on a day-to-day basis.
2) Being Kind to the World Being kind is another secret that most men do not know that women want. Women want their man to be kind to everyone. They want them to nice to everyone that they meet to some degree. Treating others nicely will mean that they are kind and are going to give the same type of treatment that they deserve and expect from everyone else. Kindness can go a long way to a women's heart and it should be something that men think about.
3) Having Accountability for Actions Women want men to have accountability. They wan to make sure that men are going to take the responsibility for the things that they have done. This can mean anything from the smallest problem to bigger life changing events that happen in their life. Women want to make sure that they are with a man that is going to be a stand-up guy and do what they are supposed to do.
4) Loving Family One no no that women hate is a man that does not love her family. Women want to have a man that is going to love their family and take on the pressures of family life in a good way. This means their parents, brothers, sisters and children all the same. They need to know that they can rely on their husbands or boyfriends to do what is needed of them. Most women need someone that they can trust and whom they know is going to be there for them when they are most in need.
5) Being Safe and Secure Women want to also feel safe with their men. They want to know that they have nothing to worry about and that they are in good hands when they are with them. Having the feeling of security is going to mean all the difference when a woman is with their man. They want to be secure not only with their man but they also want to know that their man is going to be there to protect them when they need it the most. Women need to make sure that their man is taking their relationship seriously. They want to know that their man is going to be there for them no matter what and they want to make sure that they are for real in the partnership. Try not to joke around all the time and laugh about things in the relationship as this is going to insult some women and make them feel low. Women want their men to be committed and serious about what is going on in the relationship just as they do.
1) Giving Respect is as Important as Getting It One thing is respect. Women want to have respect. When it comes to respecting women, some men are not so good at it. This may end up resulting in them losing out in the relationship. It is important to show respect to a woman that you are involved with or any woman for that matter. Give them an opportunity to see that you can be a good guy and that you can respect what they believe and let them have their own feelings about things. Respect is going to be shown through actions. You can do nice things for a woman like opening up the door, giving up your seat or talking to her differently with passion and concern. It is not acceptable to just fake some charm on a first date. You need to be real and up front about how you are going to be in the relationship on a day-to-day basis.
2) Being Kind to the World Being kind is another secret that most men do not know that women want. Women want their man to be kind to everyone. They want them to nice to everyone that they meet to some degree. Treating others nicely will mean that they are kind and are going to give the same type of treatment that they deserve and expect from everyone else. Kindness can go a long way to a women's heart and it should be something that men think about.
3) Having Accountability for Actions Women want men to have accountability. They wan to make sure that men are going to take the responsibility for the things that they have done. This can mean anything from the smallest problem to bigger life changing events that happen in their life. Women want to make sure that they are with a man that is going to be a stand-up guy and do what they are supposed to do.
4) Loving Family One no no that women hate is a man that does not love her family. Women want to have a man that is going to love their family and take on the pressures of family life in a good way. This means their parents, brothers, sisters and children all the same. They need to know that they can rely on their husbands or boyfriends to do what is needed of them. Most women need someone that they can trust and whom they know is going to be there for them when they are most in need.
5) Being Safe and Secure Women want to also feel safe with their men. They want to know that they have nothing to worry about and that they are in good hands when they are with them. Having the feeling of security is going to mean all the difference when a woman is with their man. They want to be secure not only with their man but they also want to know that their man is going to be there to protect them when they need it the most. Women need to make sure that their man is taking their relationship seriously. They want to know that their man is going to be there for them no matter what and they want to make sure that they are for real in the partnership. Try not to joke around all the time and laugh about things in the relationship as this is going to insult some women and make them feel low. Women want their men to be committed and serious about what is going on in the relationship just as they do.
Friday, July 27, 2007
8 Things That Attract A Man to A Woman!
There are certain things that are going to attract a man to a woman. If you are a man and you are wondering what you can do to make yourself more attractive to a woman, you need to pay attention. You have to check this out so that you have what it takes to draw in a woman and keep her interested in you. Being able to attract a woman is going to be the first step in building a great relationship.
1) Dress for Success
The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are keeping up with your appearance. Women want to have a man that looks a certain way. They want to have a man that takes pride in their appearance and wants to look good for them. However I am sure that a woman does not want to have a man that is too worried about what they looks. Pretty boys are not usually what most women want however there are a few that do like this type. Make sure that your clothes and hair and everything about you makes you look attractive. Keep yourself groomed well and always make sure that you smell good. Women go crazy for men that smell nice.
2) Take Advantage of Her Senses
You need to make sure that you are appealing to her senses. This means you need to think about what you can do to make yourself more appealing to her through her senses. You need to have everything - from the way that you sound to the way that you touch her! Make sure that you talk in the voice that melts her from time to time. Again having the right fragrance is going to make her feel good about you too. Clothing and appearance will take care of the sight sense and you need to make sure that you keep up on the sense of touch. Give her comfort and hold her when you should and make her feel loved by the way that you touch her.
3) Make her Dream about You Give her a reason to think about you.
Whatever it is make sure that you leave an impression in her mind. It can be anything from the way that you talk to her, the affection that you show her or the little things that you do to make her happy. Whatever it is make sure that she can never take her mind off of you. This will make her feel good and you will be able to have her in the palm of your hands all the time.
4) Make her the Center of your Universe Treat her like she is the most important thing in your life.
Of course she should be but you need to show her. Focus your attention on her and block out any distractions. This means a night out with the guys, a good looking waitress, sweet looking ride on the road or anything else that may grab your attention from her. You want to make sure that you are giving her your full attention and making sure that she knows that she is the only thing that matters when you are together. Even when you are not together, let her know that you are thinking about her. Text her or give her a brief call from time to time. Let her know that you are always thinking of her and that you want to let her know that.
5) Flirting never hurts Do not be afraid to flirt with her.
This will make her feel sexy and good. You should never flirt with anyone else though. This will usually only make her mad and you may end up getting in a lot of trouble if you do this. Let her know that you are attracted to her.
6) STOP - Listen Listening to a woman is going to get you far.
If you are trying to win the heart of someone, you need to pay attention. Make sure that you listen to everything that she is saying and be sure to make eye contact with her. This will make her feel good and she will defiantly be attracted to you for this.
7) Take an Interest in Her Life Women love men that take an interest in what they are doing and what they are feeling.
Make sure that you are giving them a reason to want to hang out with them. Do the things that she likes to do and spend time getting to know her better. This is something that you will want to do so that she knows that you are interested in her and what she is doing in life. Ask her that her hobbies are and what she likes to do for fun.
8) Honesty IS the Best Policy Women like men that are honest and sincere.
Do not lie to her. This will only get you in trouble. You need to make sure that you are doing what you need to in order to keep the lines of communication open and never make anything up or lie to her. Give her a reason to trust you and never let her down in this way. You may never regain her trust if you do. When you are serious about getting a woman to be attracted to you all of these techniques will help you. Use them to your best interest and take advantage of the things that you can and make sure that you are keeping all of your intentions good when you are trying to make a woman fall in love with you.
1) Dress for Success
The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are keeping up with your appearance. Women want to have a man that looks a certain way. They want to have a man that takes pride in their appearance and wants to look good for them. However I am sure that a woman does not want to have a man that is too worried about what they looks. Pretty boys are not usually what most women want however there are a few that do like this type. Make sure that your clothes and hair and everything about you makes you look attractive. Keep yourself groomed well and always make sure that you smell good. Women go crazy for men that smell nice.
2) Take Advantage of Her Senses
You need to make sure that you are appealing to her senses. This means you need to think about what you can do to make yourself more appealing to her through her senses. You need to have everything - from the way that you sound to the way that you touch her! Make sure that you talk in the voice that melts her from time to time. Again having the right fragrance is going to make her feel good about you too. Clothing and appearance will take care of the sight sense and you need to make sure that you keep up on the sense of touch. Give her comfort and hold her when you should and make her feel loved by the way that you touch her.
3) Make her Dream about You Give her a reason to think about you.
Whatever it is make sure that you leave an impression in her mind. It can be anything from the way that you talk to her, the affection that you show her or the little things that you do to make her happy. Whatever it is make sure that she can never take her mind off of you. This will make her feel good and you will be able to have her in the palm of your hands all the time.
4) Make her the Center of your Universe Treat her like she is the most important thing in your life.
Of course she should be but you need to show her. Focus your attention on her and block out any distractions. This means a night out with the guys, a good looking waitress, sweet looking ride on the road or anything else that may grab your attention from her. You want to make sure that you are giving her your full attention and making sure that she knows that she is the only thing that matters when you are together. Even when you are not together, let her know that you are thinking about her. Text her or give her a brief call from time to time. Let her know that you are always thinking of her and that you want to let her know that.
5) Flirting never hurts Do not be afraid to flirt with her.
This will make her feel sexy and good. You should never flirt with anyone else though. This will usually only make her mad and you may end up getting in a lot of trouble if you do this. Let her know that you are attracted to her.
6) STOP - Listen Listening to a woman is going to get you far.
If you are trying to win the heart of someone, you need to pay attention. Make sure that you listen to everything that she is saying and be sure to make eye contact with her. This will make her feel good and she will defiantly be attracted to you for this.
7) Take an Interest in Her Life Women love men that take an interest in what they are doing and what they are feeling.
Make sure that you are giving them a reason to want to hang out with them. Do the things that she likes to do and spend time getting to know her better. This is something that you will want to do so that she knows that you are interested in her and what she is doing in life. Ask her that her hobbies are and what she likes to do for fun.
8) Honesty IS the Best Policy Women like men that are honest and sincere.
Do not lie to her. This will only get you in trouble. You need to make sure that you are doing what you need to in order to keep the lines of communication open and never make anything up or lie to her. Give her a reason to trust you and never let her down in this way. You may never regain her trust if you do. When you are serious about getting a woman to be attracted to you all of these techniques will help you. Use them to your best interest and take advantage of the things that you can and make sure that you are keeping all of your intentions good when you are trying to make a woman fall in love with you.
Online Safety Tips
The best way to stay safe when using online dating services is to ensure your anonymity. There many information websites and services out that make it easy for internet savvy people to find you via your email, phone, or address. You can stay anonymous and protect your privacy with these ten tips to stay safe when online dating.
Stay anonymous in your profile.
When writing your online dating profile, make sure that you stay completely anonymous. You can give potential dates information about your personality, but never, ever reveal any information that gives them any indication as to where you live or how to get in touch with you.
Sign up for a free email address.
Visit Hotmail, Yahoo! Mail to sign up for a free email address. By signing up for a free email address, you ensure that you stay in control of communicating with potential online dating partners. If you ever feel uncomfortable, you can close the free account and end communications. Be sure to make sure that the email address you chose does not reveal anything personal about yourself.
Keep your address private.
Never reveal your real name, home address, or phone number until you are completely comfortable in doing so. Make sure that you communicate via email until you feel comfortable with your potential date.
Get a P.O. box and/or unlisted phone number.
You may want to sign up for a p.o. box at your local post office and/or unlist your phone number. Your safety is extremely important and signing up for these gives you added safety.
Do not use sexy references.
When selecting your email address or user name, steer clear of any 'sexy' names. You'll get noticed by using one, but generally by the wrong people.
Tell the truth.
You want to protect yourself, but be honest at the same time. Let your potential dates get to know your personality, your likes and dislikes, and your thoughts and feelings. Do not let them know your private information such as location or anything that would identify you. You may also be nervous about using a photo, but rest assured that it's ok to do so as long as you keep your other private information out of your profile.
Trust your gut.
If you feel unsure, threatened, or uncomfortable, DO NOT respond to any further communication. You know when you feel uncomfortable. If you feel that way when talking to a person at the beginning, it's not going to change and you may be putting yourself further in danger.
Beware of the red flags.
Watch out for obvious 'red flags' when talking to people that you have met through online dating. If they are acting suspicious, they probably are not who they say they are. Use common sense and you'll be safe. You can view several online dating red flags here.
Use your email block list.
If you are uncomfortable with any email or IM messages from a member of the dating services, use your block list to keep them from contacting you again in the future.
Don't be afraid to report them.
If you come across any potential dates that are lying, threatening, or mis-using the services, report them to the company.
Stay anonymous in your profile.
When writing your online dating profile, make sure that you stay completely anonymous. You can give potential dates information about your personality, but never, ever reveal any information that gives them any indication as to where you live or how to get in touch with you.
Sign up for a free email address.
Visit Hotmail, Yahoo! Mail to sign up for a free email address. By signing up for a free email address, you ensure that you stay in control of communicating with potential online dating partners. If you ever feel uncomfortable, you can close the free account and end communications. Be sure to make sure that the email address you chose does not reveal anything personal about yourself.
Keep your address private.
Never reveal your real name, home address, or phone number until you are completely comfortable in doing so. Make sure that you communicate via email until you feel comfortable with your potential date.
Get a P.O. box and/or unlisted phone number.
You may want to sign up for a p.o. box at your local post office and/or unlist your phone number. Your safety is extremely important and signing up for these gives you added safety.
Do not use sexy references.
When selecting your email address or user name, steer clear of any 'sexy' names. You'll get noticed by using one, but generally by the wrong people.
Tell the truth.
You want to protect yourself, but be honest at the same time. Let your potential dates get to know your personality, your likes and dislikes, and your thoughts and feelings. Do not let them know your private information such as location or anything that would identify you. You may also be nervous about using a photo, but rest assured that it's ok to do so as long as you keep your other private information out of your profile.
Trust your gut.
If you feel unsure, threatened, or uncomfortable, DO NOT respond to any further communication. You know when you feel uncomfortable. If you feel that way when talking to a person at the beginning, it's not going to change and you may be putting yourself further in danger.
Beware of the red flags.
Watch out for obvious 'red flags' when talking to people that you have met through online dating. If they are acting suspicious, they probably are not who they say they are. Use common sense and you'll be safe. You can view several online dating red flags here.
Use your email block list.
If you are uncomfortable with any email or IM messages from a member of the dating services, use your block list to keep them from contacting you again in the future.
Don't be afraid to report them.
If you come across any potential dates that are lying, threatening, or mis-using the services, report them to the company.
Dating Tips
At birth, did you get a manual as to ‘how’ to use that brain of yours? How to be happy, how to find and keep friends and how to find that ‘special’ person, suitable for you? Have you ever learned how to date? Why is it that some people are so good at dating and others aren’t? What are they doing different? Is it just because they are lucky? Or did they learn how to do it well? And, if so, is it possible for you to learn how to have more success when it comes to dating? How often do you examine what you do? How often do you sit down and think about what processes you use when it comes to the subject of meeting and getting to know another person? Most of us are too busy to function in this world instead of taking the time to find out how we function and how we could function more effectively!
'The Art of Dating'.
1. Ask powerful questions Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other person. For example, you can use words such as what, where and how. These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no answer. Instead they give the other person the opportunity to give a more comprehensive answer. Apart from that you may need to ask more specific questions at certain times. For example, if she says 'I'll call you soon' you may want to ask something like 'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information will avoid misunderstandings!
2. Reality checks Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values are based on your reality, which doesn't mean your beliefs and values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs and values may not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.
3. Avoid assumptions Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...', ask! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight away, it doesn't mean that he or she isn't interested. Perhaps they just need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.
4. Build rapport Rapport is the presence of trust, harmony and co-operation in a relationship. If you have rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner. You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and voice.
5. Be confident Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....ACT AS IF YOU ARE!
'The Art of Dating'.
1. Ask powerful questions Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other person. For example, you can use words such as what, where and how. These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no answer. Instead they give the other person the opportunity to give a more comprehensive answer. Apart from that you may need to ask more specific questions at certain times. For example, if she says 'I'll call you soon' you may want to ask something like 'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information will avoid misunderstandings!
2. Reality checks Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values are based on your reality, which doesn't mean your beliefs and values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs and values may not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.
3. Avoid assumptions Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...', ask! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight away, it doesn't mean that he or she isn't interested. Perhaps they just need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.
4. Build rapport Rapport is the presence of trust, harmony and co-operation in a relationship. If you have rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner. You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and voice.
5. Be confident Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....ACT AS IF YOU ARE!
Tuesday, June 5, 2007
Welcome to my Find A Friend Blog
Hi there, my name is Desmond from Singapore. I am a Social, Recreation and Event Organiser. I am the founder of my online Social Club at http://www.organise4u.com.sg/ This blog is to further enhance the friendship base in Singapore and other country if possible. A place that to share anything and chat about anything about friendship. Making friends, finding dates for Singles and also events and other activities that will be created just for you.
Join as Ordinary Member : http://www.organise4u.com.sg/joinmember.htm
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(about 5000+ members
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Join as Ordinary Member : http://www.organise4u.com.sg/joinmember.htm
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Join Organise4U Multiply Group : http://groupoforganise4u.multiply.com/
(about 5000+ members
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