My good friend had an uncanny knack for getting what she wanted. Whether she was in the market for a particular pair of shoes or a certain kind of man, she scored every time.
When she decided she wanted to get married, she wrote a detailed list of the qualities she expected in a husband (I did the same thing, but the qualities I chose were different from hers).
She wanted a man who: Owned his own house Possessed a college degree Made xx dollars per year Had to be willing to have at least four children. On top of that, he would buy her an engagement ring of a minimum of two carats with a Marquis cut, set in yellow gold with platinum prongs.
She also listed another goal. She wanted to achieve a 22-inch waistline-- so she could stick it to the daughter of her mother's best friend, a girl she had been compared to all her life, when she walked down the aisle on her wedding day.
The upshot?
She did look smashing in her wedding dress, she did get the ring, the house, the children, the salary--all of it. What she also got was a man who works most of the time. When he isn't working, he does not help her with the children, two of whom suffer from developmental delays. He is insulting, belittling, and unkind. He calls her fat and ugly. Social Services appeared at their home after their daughter reported a "domestic dispute" to her teacher.
Hey, but at least she still has the ring.
While it's fundamentally important to know what you want in a man (it makes it so much easier to recognize the right one when he shows up, and it also increases the chances that he will show up), it's critical to choose qualities that go deeper than "owns his own house."
When I drew up my own list, I decided the man I'd marry had to be:
Faithful
Loving
Reliable
Successful
Fun
And those qualities sum up the guy I married (after years of dating losers, schmoozers, and No-Show Joes). You, too, deserve to spend your life with a man who loves you, supports your dreams, and makes your happiness a priority. Choose wisely.
Friday, August 31, 2007
What You Ought To Know Before Getting Married?
It's the same story with the same fairy tale ending. Boy meets girl. Love. Kisses. Miss made Mrs. And everyone assumes that they'll live happily ever after. But do they? If you don't want your marriage to go wrong you should understand that contrary to popular belief, nothing goes right in marriage unless you are mentally prepared for life together. Pointers to help you.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right. This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind.
A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own. Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right. This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind.
A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own. Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
Does Being a Nice Guy Get You More Dates?
The answer to this question should be a resounding 'Yes' but unfortunately when you are working with human emotions, there's no sure thing and this is the case when it comes to the way women think about nice guys! Nice guys are attractive to many women, but whether they get more dates than those guys who aren't so nice is relative to the amount of women they are interested in and want to date. Although there are women who find nice guys sexy, there are also those women who think that a nice guy must by definition be boring!
Nice guys aren't necessarily boring however. Being polite and caring about others isn't boring - it may be a little outdated in a society where the survival of the fittest and those who dare win are the cultural norms, but that doesn't make it boring. What a nice guy does mean is that the women they date should find that they are never stood up, they are never cheated on and that they are secure in their relationships. These three things are often missing from relationships with guys who walk on the dangerous side of life.
Women who are looking for adventure won't be interested in 'nice guys'. They want guys who are prepared to make them feel that they are a little wild rather than like a princess! The nice guy however wins in the long run because when it comes to settling down most women would choose a nice guy over a wild one for their life partner - realizing that this is the guy who will bring them both emotional and financial security.
Just as nice girls have a tendency to attract wild guys who will break their hearts, there are many nice guys who can attest to the fact that wild girls are also out there looking to mess with the emotions of a nice guy. There are also a number of ex nice guys out there who changed their persona having been messed around by girls who abused their nice guy image. There's a lot of truth in the old cliché about opposites attracting - and it's certainly true in the case of nice guys and wild girls (as well as vice versa), at least in short term relationships.
Nice guys may not always get more dates than their wilder counterparts, but they are more likely to end up in more permanent relationships which is with a either a nice girl or a wild girl they have tamed! If you're a nice guy, and you feel that it's not working for you, hang in there - hang in there, the odds are you'll still come out a winner!
Nice guys aren't necessarily boring however. Being polite and caring about others isn't boring - it may be a little outdated in a society where the survival of the fittest and those who dare win are the cultural norms, but that doesn't make it boring. What a nice guy does mean is that the women they date should find that they are never stood up, they are never cheated on and that they are secure in their relationships. These three things are often missing from relationships with guys who walk on the dangerous side of life.
Women who are looking for adventure won't be interested in 'nice guys'. They want guys who are prepared to make them feel that they are a little wild rather than like a princess! The nice guy however wins in the long run because when it comes to settling down most women would choose a nice guy over a wild one for their life partner - realizing that this is the guy who will bring them both emotional and financial security.
Just as nice girls have a tendency to attract wild guys who will break their hearts, there are many nice guys who can attest to the fact that wild girls are also out there looking to mess with the emotions of a nice guy. There are also a number of ex nice guys out there who changed their persona having been messed around by girls who abused their nice guy image. There's a lot of truth in the old cliché about opposites attracting - and it's certainly true in the case of nice guys and wild girls (as well as vice versa), at least in short term relationships.
Nice guys may not always get more dates than their wilder counterparts, but they are more likely to end up in more permanent relationships which is with a either a nice girl or a wild girl they have tamed! If you're a nice guy, and you feel that it's not working for you, hang in there - hang in there, the odds are you'll still come out a winner!
Friday, August 17, 2007
A Small Mistake In Getting A Lady's Number...
Too many incidents happened to guys where they pocketed a woman'sphone number... but attempts to get her out after that don't workout well. That includes:- Smsing her and getting zero replies- Calling her and nobody picks up.- She does answer the phone but quickly says "Hey, I'm in ameeting, can't talk now."It's definitely NOT a good feeling. Fact is, it happens often and guys can't help but wonder "Why does she bother giving me her number only to throw such cold responses afterward???" Still, the responsiblity of such an outcome lies more with the male than the female.
What's identified is... usually, after the male gets a gal's number, he bids her goodbye and leaves immediately. This makes him come across to the lady as the dude who "got what he wanted and run."More importantly, the lady begins to wonder... "Did I just looklike one of those girls who give away numbers easily?"... thereforeshe has to 'self protect' by making it not as easy for the guy to get her out when he calls or sms.
The solution? After pocketing a lady's number, chat a while more before leaving. Just one to three minutes will do... it makes a load of difference. This eliminates the thought in her mind that you're one of those guys who bags her number and grin "So long, sucker!". Example: (After exchanging numbers) you say, "We'll keep in touch.By the way, you mentioned just now that you went to Mayday Concertlast week. How was it?" Just chat a little more.The key idea is to - refer back to something from the conversation you had with her. Don't just speed off immediately.
What's identified is... usually, after the male gets a gal's number, he bids her goodbye and leaves immediately. This makes him come across to the lady as the dude who "got what he wanted and run."More importantly, the lady begins to wonder... "Did I just looklike one of those girls who give away numbers easily?"... thereforeshe has to 'self protect' by making it not as easy for the guy to get her out when he calls or sms.
The solution? After pocketing a lady's number, chat a while more before leaving. Just one to three minutes will do... it makes a load of difference. This eliminates the thought in her mind that you're one of those guys who bags her number and grin "So long, sucker!". Example: (After exchanging numbers) you say, "We'll keep in touch.By the way, you mentioned just now that you went to Mayday Concertlast week. How was it?" Just chat a little more.The key idea is to - refer back to something from the conversation you had with her. Don't just speed off immediately.
Friday, August 10, 2007
Make Women Laugh And Fall In Love. Secrets Of Attracting Women With Humor.
Make Women Laugh And Fall In Love. Secrets Of Attracting Women With Humor. Results Guaranteed. Recommended By Experts. http://tinyurl.com/29dhq3
It's proven! Humor is the shortcut to attraction...
"Revealed! Closely Guarded Secrets To Attract Beautiful Women Using The Power Of Humor... Guaranteed!"
"The Power Of Humor"
I have a question for you. Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a "peculiar" way? (Or maybe both?)
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called “Average, Dull, Boring” for their entire lives. But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest. And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Cosmo... I can ask you to check out the profiles on those dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen... But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man). In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
"Why Make Women Laugh? "
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is JUST something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
You know what? The ability to make any woman laugh and fall in love is inside each of us. Even if your answer to any of those questions is not a confident "YES", you can choose to reclaim your power of humor. You can stop being boring, or average, once and for all.
Details at :
http://tinyurl.com/29dhq3
It's proven! Humor is the shortcut to attraction...
"Revealed! Closely Guarded Secrets To Attract Beautiful Women Using The Power Of Humor... Guaranteed!"
"The Power Of Humor"
I have a question for you. Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a "peculiar" way? (Or maybe both?)
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called “Average, Dull, Boring” for their entire lives. But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest. And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Cosmo... I can ask you to check out the profiles on those dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen... But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man). In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
"Why Make Women Laugh? "
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is JUST something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
You know what? The ability to make any woman laugh and fall in love is inside each of us. Even if your answer to any of those questions is not a confident "YES", you can choose to reclaim your power of humor. You can stop being boring, or average, once and for all.
Details at :
http://tinyurl.com/29dhq3
Connect With Ladies On Dates With This Strategy...
Now, in this e-letter, I'd like to upload an idea that can increase the amount of bonding you have with a woman the next time you're out on a date.
But first, let's 'investigate' what typically goes on during datesfor most of the guys out there.Usually, a man and a woman's date will involve a lot of 'sitting'. It's often a restaurant where they sit and chat. Once they're done, they'll move on to another place, say a cafe andsit again... repeating the process. And I haven't even mentioned about watching movies in a cinema...another 'sitting session'. There's nothing wrong with 'sit and chat' of course. However, itis certainly wrong if it's the ONLY type of interactivity a manultilizes on the date. What I'm suggesting is you need to ADD a deeper form of interactionwith women on dates.
Other than sitting down, you can move aroundwith her... you get involved in choosing things with her... youbelong to a little 'own world' with her.One suggestion is shopping. But hold on, I'm suggesting......NOT just plain shopping. There's a difference between 'passive shopping' and 'active shopping' when you're on a date. And 'active shopping' is the one that gets you results.
Put it simply, 'passive shopping' is just go to a store with a gal, look around and get out."Active shopping' is when you enter a shop, you toy around with thestuff inside with your date, you try things on for one another, youplay around... dress things up with her. You and the lady are INVOLVED. Eg: Bookstore. Find those horoscope books. Pick one up, hold ittogether with her and explore each others' sign. Giggle together athow real or how phony the things that are written. Then you bringher to another section with those 'personality test' books andstart quizzing one another. That is 'active shopping'.
To compare, 'passive shopping' in a bookstore is when you finger through the rows of books, flip through some and put back, whileshe seperately browse her own books... tell me, where's themale/female involvement? So, as you can imagine, bookstore is just an example. You canconnect with your date in gift shop, cd store, shoe shop etc. The idea is still the same... ... which is - When you and a girl are 'active shopping' from placeto place, her body receives signals that she's been to places and did a lot of things together with you. The amount of connection between you both is therefore... stronger.
Go ahead and use the suggested activity. And I recommend combiningit with some attraction-loaded strategies which appeal to womenmore than other guys can ever dream of. It further rocket-boostsyour attractiveness with her. Seriously, to attract the type of woman you desire, you cannot bejust like 'one of the guys'. You have to become a man who isattractivey different than others.
But first, let's 'investigate' what typically goes on during datesfor most of the guys out there.Usually, a man and a woman's date will involve a lot of 'sitting'. It's often a restaurant where they sit and chat. Once they're done, they'll move on to another place, say a cafe andsit again... repeating the process. And I haven't even mentioned about watching movies in a cinema...another 'sitting session'. There's nothing wrong with 'sit and chat' of course. However, itis certainly wrong if it's the ONLY type of interactivity a manultilizes on the date. What I'm suggesting is you need to ADD a deeper form of interactionwith women on dates.
Other than sitting down, you can move aroundwith her... you get involved in choosing things with her... youbelong to a little 'own world' with her.One suggestion is shopping. But hold on, I'm suggesting......NOT just plain shopping. There's a difference between 'passive shopping' and 'active shopping' when you're on a date. And 'active shopping' is the one that gets you results.
Put it simply, 'passive shopping' is just go to a store with a gal, look around and get out."Active shopping' is when you enter a shop, you toy around with thestuff inside with your date, you try things on for one another, youplay around... dress things up with her. You and the lady are INVOLVED. Eg: Bookstore. Find those horoscope books. Pick one up, hold ittogether with her and explore each others' sign. Giggle together athow real or how phony the things that are written. Then you bringher to another section with those 'personality test' books andstart quizzing one another. That is 'active shopping'.
To compare, 'passive shopping' in a bookstore is when you finger through the rows of books, flip through some and put back, whileshe seperately browse her own books... tell me, where's themale/female involvement? So, as you can imagine, bookstore is just an example. You canconnect with your date in gift shop, cd store, shoe shop etc. The idea is still the same... ... which is - When you and a girl are 'active shopping' from placeto place, her body receives signals that she's been to places and did a lot of things together with you. The amount of connection between you both is therefore... stronger.
Go ahead and use the suggested activity. And I recommend combiningit with some attraction-loaded strategies which appeal to womenmore than other guys can ever dream of. It further rocket-boostsyour attractiveness with her. Seriously, to attract the type of woman you desire, you cannot bejust like 'one of the guys'. You have to become a man who isattractivey different than others.
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