Girls opinion on - What Type Of Guys Turns You On?, Taken from a forum…
if u are talking about physical appearance, then it would be cute, boyish, fit and toned body with 6 packs, tan..
as for characters, those very gentlemen type, like open the doors/car doors, pull out the seat for u... and also must be humourous and easy going... not forgetting generous.. i hate stingy and calculative guys..jus like my SO..haiz..
physically, would die for a man with looks to kill for, a good body with six pack abs, suave..... back to reality, a pleasant looking gentleman will attract me.
i like rain's bod
I doubt guys with big belly turns any gals on~
brains and gentlemanly guys turn me on BIG TIME!!!!!
looks: always tall n skinny. my bf is lean and got muscles also.. i LIKE.. character: HUMOUROUS, gentlemanly, filial, considerate and sweet.
Brainy and humourous guys are sexy to me... Of cos a sexy smile turns me on too
i like pale girlish guys
hmmm..charming,energetic, nice smile, make me feel happy and secure when i am with him..can make me smile and laugh, easygoing, gentleman.....
Guys with nice hair, clean look , wear specs (especially those rim-less kind), dress well, wear nice shoes and well mannered. Most importantly, not fat, oily and sticky.
if looks alone.. someone who looks like edison chen wld def be a turn on for me.. hehe
CHARMING, STYLISH HEHHEHE
Sunshine look, nice smile!
Phyically-> Tall, Skinny, Pale, Neat, Clean
like someone who is quietly confident and not too showy or flirty...
I love botaks!!! Botak as in skinhead or very very short hair... NOT BALDING PLS!And if the botak comes with a fantastic body... Then i'll surely *drOolsSs* LoL~~
Clever guys!! I can't resist guys who smells nice too
he's gotta be intelligent, a gentleman, gotta have a good sense of humor, easygoing, someone who makes me happy and who has a "sunshine personality"
Guys who read... and I don't mean read comic books only Guys who are kindhearted to others. Gentlemanly guys.
i like bye eyes and dimpled guys. but apparently.. girls usually dont get the guys of the kind they want most of the time.
guys who are sensitive to pple's feelings, understanding, gentlemanly, concerned about keeping a tidy appearance. there is too much to be shared.. haha.
charming. out-spoken. friendly. nice smile. sunshine type of guys
like someone who is quietly confident and not too showy or flirty...2nd that. Quietly confident, and don't boast and flaunt what they have. Very steady, can look you straight in the eye and thinks thro' his words before saying - says what he means and means what he say. Someone with substance and comfortable in his own skin. Need not be handsome, but this kind of person just has a kind of charisma that catch people's attention and make them pay attention to him.
Men in shirts! especially expensive looking shirts. hmm..
i like guys who has dimples, quite muscular, gentlemanly, understanding. the quietly confident too!
I prefer guys that are rather tanned, wear specs ( not sure why but I like guys that wear specs), able to conduct a good conversation and smart in the outlook, able to dress well and of course, we a good smile!
Like guys tall tall, wear shirt and jean .. shoulder fit fit one... heeheedreaming only lah as my currenty SO is not as above mentioned..
someone who is humorous, caring, gentlemanly, sweet..able to make me smile just being himself and knowledgeable.. need not be very out spoken... but a thinker...
i like boys who are smart, knowledgeable and with self-confidence
gentlemen with strong arms. their strong arms always protray a sense of security when being with them. gentlemen definitely too. must be able to think of the welfare of girls.
average lookin will do.. often smiling type.hate guy tat always give black face..do not smoke..gentleman..kind heart..romantic towards me ONLY
Boyish, articulate and gentleman guy
tanned and muscular body, wear collared shirts, witty plus brains , confident
tall, gentlemanly, charming, cute, boyish smile, humorous, talkative, make me smile and make me happy.
guys with dimples, tanned bod, charming, gentlemenly, cute, humorous...foxfoo, most gals if not all, like gentlemenly guys...some guys i've met r def ungentlemenly...e.g. don send the gal home after a date...etc...
Physically: -tall 1.76-1.8m only-tanned-athletic (toned and muscular but not bulky like bodybuilders please)-double eyelids-perfect eyesight-nice smile (nice teeth)-dimples-hairy legs nice short hairCharacter and personality:-christian and a man of God-integrity-committed-honest-kind-chivalrous-romantic-loving-helpful-thoughtful and considerate-respectful of girls-family manmy darling has all the above qualities but then again i'm biased
intelligence and humour and chemistry lor.physically, i like guys with INTENSE EYES!like michael scofield frm prison break. *swwooons* and dr mcsteamy from grey's anatomy. haha.
Confident and neat appearance I think is quite basic ba....Tall, fit, humour and also boyish smile will be bonus...
good looking ones definitely turn me on BUT as for whether it last or not will depends on the way a guy carries himself... i'll listen to what he says... this will decide whether he indeed turn me on or not..
the strong silent type. MUST be tanned. good complexion, nice teeth, dimples!!!
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
What You Ought To Know Before Getting Married?
It's the same story with the same fairy tale ending. Boy meets girl. Love. Kisses. Miss made Mrs. And everyone assumes that they'll live happily ever after. But do they? If you don't want your marriage to go wrong you should understand that contrary to popular belief, nothing goes right in marriage unless you are mentally prepared for life together. Pointers to help you.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right.
This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind. A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own.
Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
About The Author
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of http://www.love-lectures.com where he provides dating tips and relationship advice for couples and singles in building healthy and successful relationships.
Don't waver between, "Should I?" or "Should I not?"
Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don't have a liking for.
Avoid acting in a manner which says, "I'm easily available".
Flirtatious behaviour and ways which clearly show that you are an easy catch do not add to your worth. It may tempt boys to have some fun with you but it will send you hurtling down in their estimation. The shy hard-to-get miss has far more appeal.
Be wary of Internet romance.
It starts as a bit of fun and ends with all fun drained out of your life. In cyberspace one is anonymous and nobody knows what the real truth is. So, don't be dazzled with the novelty and charm of it, but look before you leap into cyberspace.
Talk over those cherished dreams of yours with your partner-to-be.
The girl's right to a home of her own, to take up a job and related matters do not figure in marriage discussions among elders. It is for her, therefore, to tactfully find out her partner's stand on matters that are important to her.
Fiona's was an arranged match and, when George told her they'd be staying with his mother, she spoke out her mind saying, "But I need my own space. If you can't give it to me, this marriage will be no fun and I'd rather opt out of it." They talked this over with his mother and came up with a solution acceptable to both. With prickly matters like these agreed upon beforehand, the marriage stands to gain.
Seek knowledge, for it is a safe guide while ignorance can misguide.
A girl needs to be mentally prepared to take up her new role as wife, daughter-in-law and mother, but sad to say, she often is not. There are matters - personal, health-related and sexual - that the couple, especially the girl, would like advice on. But parents treat these matters as taboo. In that case, the couple should seek information from books and on-line material or go for counselling. Sound knowledge is the basis of a sound marriage.
Being prudish and refraining from talking about intimate concerns can hurt a marriage.
Certain questions like when to start a family and how big it should be, did not arise in the past but are inevitable now as present-day couples are driven by personal ambitions and pressures of work.
Being very specific about such matters can take a load off the mind.
Newly-wed Wendy was deeply distressed and when pressed for the reason, told her husband about her fear that kids may stand in the way of her higher studies. On being reassured that they'd think of children only after she had fulfilled all her ambitions, she was relieved. Such assurances are important, for thwarted desires can give rise to negative feelings in a marriage.
Your appearance and looks can send your man's heart racing.
So, be graceful and dress decently. Look attractive and smart and, above all, maintain a trim figure even after marriage. Every man likes to show off his wife but a dowdy and badly-dressed woman is someone he'll cringe from. Dressing revealingly, however, is a big no-no. Though men enjoy seeing skimpily dressed women, they don't want their wives to dare and bare.
Remember the age-old saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
It was grandma's approach route. It has been tried out for years and has vintage flavour. Why not make it yours by learning to be a good cook?
A happy home can bind hearts together.
So, master the art of good housekeeping and make your home invitingly bright and warm. "I hate to go home because mine is a filthy place run by a scowling wife," complains a husband as he walks away in disgust.
That should remind you that winning or losing a battle on the home front depends largely on how bright your home is and how vivacious you are.
Courtship time need not be all romance and moonshine but can be reality-check time.
It can be an opportunity for the couple to learn about each other's strengths and weaknesses, loves and hates and anything else of importance. This will not only prepare them to adjust to each other's ways but will also enable them to use their own strong points to offset the weak ones of the other and vice versa.
Seeing her fiance spending lavishly on her, Karen knew that he was a spendthrift and pointed out that this could be a hurdle in their marriage. "I'm frugal," she told him," and am adept at saving. So, let me handle the household finances after marriage while you do something you are good at, like choosing the gadgets and seeing to their upkeep." Since it was courtship time, he readily agreed. As feelings are warm during this period, agreements are not hard to reach and small arrangements like this can help marriage click in a big way.
Know that lovers' bliss has to end some day.
When this happens, flaws are detected, irritation surfaces and anger erupts. Every couple needs to be prepared to handle this stage and to do this, they must be well apprised of certain time-tested ways of interaction that can be helpful. Here are some:
Cultivate the I-for-you and you-for-me attitude from the very start.
Marriage is neither dominance nor servitude but a partnership. So, partners should learn to forget the egoistic 'I' for the self-effacing 'we', in their relationship. Jane hated to forego her early morning sleep and her husband came to her aid by finishing off all the early chores. This pleased her so much that she readily overlooked the way he threw about his things untidily, and tidied up for him. Such a give-and-take attitude can lessen friction in marriage.
Learn to handle your partner's ego with care.
Marital relations deteriorate when egos are hurt. Egos need to be cherished with appreciation rather than be crushed by constant fault-finding. During courtship, appreciation is unstinted and everything is rosy. Couples should remember this and they should be firmly committed to putting into marriage what made life so great for them before.
Let's face facts. "My wife is a great cook and the dishes she cooks are always great!" brags Dennis to his friends - but he never tells her' so. "My husband has a nasty temper but is very helpful around the house," admits wife to everyone else except her husband.
This failure to give due credit to each other builds up resentment in both. Each day offers so many opportunities to every couple to say heart-warming words to each other. If you say them as you readily, did during your courtship, much that goes wrong in marriage can be set right.
This is because appreciation is a great mood-enhancer and a healer of emotional hurts. It can be the vitamin A that keeps your marriage in good health.
Add spice to your married life with some romantic moments.
When two heads come together with antagonism they will soon be at loggerheads, but romance has that magical ability to drive away unkind feelings from the mind. A few quiet moments together, a short walk in the moonlight, a soft touch, a lingering caress, a silent locking of the eyes, sweet nothings whispered into eager ears, do not take time but they make you forget hurts and keep hearts locked in love's embrace. So, give this magic of love a chance to keep things straight.
Learn to fight the right way.
Fighting is an inbuilt danger to marriage but it need not be an evil that destroys it. I once heard a lawyer and his wife fighting so violently that they could be heard all over the place. Minutes later, they were walking arm in arm to their car. That's how fights should be: just a release for pent-up feelings and forgotten in a flash.
Not dragging yesterday's faults of omission and commission into today's quarrel is important, for that would be nagging which really hurts and wounds. Nobody wants to lose an argument, so a little give and take or meeting your partner half-way is a great idea.
Marriage, as all will agree, is a 24 X 7 commitment, highly taxing and very demanding with no holidays allowed and no breaks permitted. Such a trying relationship will not flourish on its own.
Strange to say, so much time, attention and money are spent on the wedding, which is a one-day affair, while no thought is given to preparing the couple for marriage, which is an exacting life-long involvement.
With a little prior guidance and direction, a couple can be emotionally prepared and mentally conditioned to adjust and attuned to each other's needs in living together. When that is done, much that can go wrong in a marriage begins to go right.
About The Author
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of http://www.love-lectures.com where he provides dating tips and relationship advice for couples and singles in building healthy and successful relationships.
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