A speaker once started off a seminar by asking a room full of 200 entry level marketers which one of them wanted a crisp $100 bill. Everywhere in the room, hands went up. He said, “I’m going to give this $100 bill to one of you but first let me do this.” He then crumpled up the note. He asked, “Who still wants it?” Everyone again put up a hand. So he said, “Ok, what if I do this?” He then dropped it on the ground and began grinding it with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty and said, “Ok, now who still wants it? Again, all the hands went up.
The speaker smiled. “My friends, you have all learned a valuable lesson today. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It is still worth $100.” Many times in our lives we are crumpled, dropped and feel like we’ve been ground into the dirt by decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. No matter what has happened or what WILL happen, you will never ever lose your value. You are special. Don’t ever forget that. Never let yesterday’s disappointments overshadow tomorrow’s dreams.
If you’re holding back from entering a new relationship because you feel wrung out by a previous one, think about what you just read and know that you have value and that value will never diminish. You might have lost out on a former partner but there’s a better one waiting for you; you just have to take the first step to look.
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Big No-No's In Your Relationship with A Woman, Which She Secretly Wish You Knew!
There are things that women want men to know but do not tell them. This is going to mean the difference between a good relationship and a bad one. If men could only know about these things that are big no-nos and knew what women wanted, they would be able to have happier relationships with the woman in their life.
1) Giving Respect is as Important as Getting It One thing is respect. Women want to have respect. When it comes to respecting women, some men are not so good at it. This may end up resulting in them losing out in the relationship. It is important to show respect to a woman that you are involved with or any woman for that matter. Give them an opportunity to see that you can be a good guy and that you can respect what they believe and let them have their own feelings about things. Respect is going to be shown through actions. You can do nice things for a woman like opening up the door, giving up your seat or talking to her differently with passion and concern. It is not acceptable to just fake some charm on a first date. You need to be real and up front about how you are going to be in the relationship on a day-to-day basis.
2) Being Kind to the World Being kind is another secret that most men do not know that women want. Women want their man to be kind to everyone. They want them to nice to everyone that they meet to some degree. Treating others nicely will mean that they are kind and are going to give the same type of treatment that they deserve and expect from everyone else. Kindness can go a long way to a women's heart and it should be something that men think about.
3) Having Accountability for Actions Women want men to have accountability. They wan to make sure that men are going to take the responsibility for the things that they have done. This can mean anything from the smallest problem to bigger life changing events that happen in their life. Women want to make sure that they are with a man that is going to be a stand-up guy and do what they are supposed to do.
4) Loving Family One no no that women hate is a man that does not love her family. Women want to have a man that is going to love their family and take on the pressures of family life in a good way. This means their parents, brothers, sisters and children all the same. They need to know that they can rely on their husbands or boyfriends to do what is needed of them. Most women need someone that they can trust and whom they know is going to be there for them when they are most in need.
5) Being Safe and Secure Women want to also feel safe with their men. They want to know that they have nothing to worry about and that they are in good hands when they are with them. Having the feeling of security is going to mean all the difference when a woman is with their man. They want to be secure not only with their man but they also want to know that their man is going to be there to protect them when they need it the most. Women need to make sure that their man is taking their relationship seriously. They want to know that their man is going to be there for them no matter what and they want to make sure that they are for real in the partnership. Try not to joke around all the time and laugh about things in the relationship as this is going to insult some women and make them feel low. Women want their men to be committed and serious about what is going on in the relationship just as they do.
1) Giving Respect is as Important as Getting It One thing is respect. Women want to have respect. When it comes to respecting women, some men are not so good at it. This may end up resulting in them losing out in the relationship. It is important to show respect to a woman that you are involved with or any woman for that matter. Give them an opportunity to see that you can be a good guy and that you can respect what they believe and let them have their own feelings about things. Respect is going to be shown through actions. You can do nice things for a woman like opening up the door, giving up your seat or talking to her differently with passion and concern. It is not acceptable to just fake some charm on a first date. You need to be real and up front about how you are going to be in the relationship on a day-to-day basis.
2) Being Kind to the World Being kind is another secret that most men do not know that women want. Women want their man to be kind to everyone. They want them to nice to everyone that they meet to some degree. Treating others nicely will mean that they are kind and are going to give the same type of treatment that they deserve and expect from everyone else. Kindness can go a long way to a women's heart and it should be something that men think about.
3) Having Accountability for Actions Women want men to have accountability. They wan to make sure that men are going to take the responsibility for the things that they have done. This can mean anything from the smallest problem to bigger life changing events that happen in their life. Women want to make sure that they are with a man that is going to be a stand-up guy and do what they are supposed to do.
4) Loving Family One no no that women hate is a man that does not love her family. Women want to have a man that is going to love their family and take on the pressures of family life in a good way. This means their parents, brothers, sisters and children all the same. They need to know that they can rely on their husbands or boyfriends to do what is needed of them. Most women need someone that they can trust and whom they know is going to be there for them when they are most in need.
5) Being Safe and Secure Women want to also feel safe with their men. They want to know that they have nothing to worry about and that they are in good hands when they are with them. Having the feeling of security is going to mean all the difference when a woman is with their man. They want to be secure not only with their man but they also want to know that their man is going to be there to protect them when they need it the most. Women need to make sure that their man is taking their relationship seriously. They want to know that their man is going to be there for them no matter what and they want to make sure that they are for real in the partnership. Try not to joke around all the time and laugh about things in the relationship as this is going to insult some women and make them feel low. Women want their men to be committed and serious about what is going on in the relationship just as they do.
Friday, July 27, 2007
8 Things That Attract A Man to A Woman!
There are certain things that are going to attract a man to a woman. If you are a man and you are wondering what you can do to make yourself more attractive to a woman, you need to pay attention. You have to check this out so that you have what it takes to draw in a woman and keep her interested in you. Being able to attract a woman is going to be the first step in building a great relationship.
1) Dress for Success
The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are keeping up with your appearance. Women want to have a man that looks a certain way. They want to have a man that takes pride in their appearance and wants to look good for them. However I am sure that a woman does not want to have a man that is too worried about what they looks. Pretty boys are not usually what most women want however there are a few that do like this type. Make sure that your clothes and hair and everything about you makes you look attractive. Keep yourself groomed well and always make sure that you smell good. Women go crazy for men that smell nice.
2) Take Advantage of Her Senses
You need to make sure that you are appealing to her senses. This means you need to think about what you can do to make yourself more appealing to her through her senses. You need to have everything - from the way that you sound to the way that you touch her! Make sure that you talk in the voice that melts her from time to time. Again having the right fragrance is going to make her feel good about you too. Clothing and appearance will take care of the sight sense and you need to make sure that you keep up on the sense of touch. Give her comfort and hold her when you should and make her feel loved by the way that you touch her.
3) Make her Dream about You Give her a reason to think about you.
Whatever it is make sure that you leave an impression in her mind. It can be anything from the way that you talk to her, the affection that you show her or the little things that you do to make her happy. Whatever it is make sure that she can never take her mind off of you. This will make her feel good and you will be able to have her in the palm of your hands all the time.
4) Make her the Center of your Universe Treat her like she is the most important thing in your life.
Of course she should be but you need to show her. Focus your attention on her and block out any distractions. This means a night out with the guys, a good looking waitress, sweet looking ride on the road or anything else that may grab your attention from her. You want to make sure that you are giving her your full attention and making sure that she knows that she is the only thing that matters when you are together. Even when you are not together, let her know that you are thinking about her. Text her or give her a brief call from time to time. Let her know that you are always thinking of her and that you want to let her know that.
5) Flirting never hurts Do not be afraid to flirt with her.
This will make her feel sexy and good. You should never flirt with anyone else though. This will usually only make her mad and you may end up getting in a lot of trouble if you do this. Let her know that you are attracted to her.
6) STOP - Listen Listening to a woman is going to get you far.
If you are trying to win the heart of someone, you need to pay attention. Make sure that you listen to everything that she is saying and be sure to make eye contact with her. This will make her feel good and she will defiantly be attracted to you for this.
7) Take an Interest in Her Life Women love men that take an interest in what they are doing and what they are feeling.
Make sure that you are giving them a reason to want to hang out with them. Do the things that she likes to do and spend time getting to know her better. This is something that you will want to do so that she knows that you are interested in her and what she is doing in life. Ask her that her hobbies are and what she likes to do for fun.
8) Honesty IS the Best Policy Women like men that are honest and sincere.
Do not lie to her. This will only get you in trouble. You need to make sure that you are doing what you need to in order to keep the lines of communication open and never make anything up or lie to her. Give her a reason to trust you and never let her down in this way. You may never regain her trust if you do. When you are serious about getting a woman to be attracted to you all of these techniques will help you. Use them to your best interest and take advantage of the things that you can and make sure that you are keeping all of your intentions good when you are trying to make a woman fall in love with you.
1) Dress for Success
The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are keeping up with your appearance. Women want to have a man that looks a certain way. They want to have a man that takes pride in their appearance and wants to look good for them. However I am sure that a woman does not want to have a man that is too worried about what they looks. Pretty boys are not usually what most women want however there are a few that do like this type. Make sure that your clothes and hair and everything about you makes you look attractive. Keep yourself groomed well and always make sure that you smell good. Women go crazy for men that smell nice.
2) Take Advantage of Her Senses
You need to make sure that you are appealing to her senses. This means you need to think about what you can do to make yourself more appealing to her through her senses. You need to have everything - from the way that you sound to the way that you touch her! Make sure that you talk in the voice that melts her from time to time. Again having the right fragrance is going to make her feel good about you too. Clothing and appearance will take care of the sight sense and you need to make sure that you keep up on the sense of touch. Give her comfort and hold her when you should and make her feel loved by the way that you touch her.
3) Make her Dream about You Give her a reason to think about you.
Whatever it is make sure that you leave an impression in her mind. It can be anything from the way that you talk to her, the affection that you show her or the little things that you do to make her happy. Whatever it is make sure that she can never take her mind off of you. This will make her feel good and you will be able to have her in the palm of your hands all the time.
4) Make her the Center of your Universe Treat her like she is the most important thing in your life.
Of course she should be but you need to show her. Focus your attention on her and block out any distractions. This means a night out with the guys, a good looking waitress, sweet looking ride on the road or anything else that may grab your attention from her. You want to make sure that you are giving her your full attention and making sure that she knows that she is the only thing that matters when you are together. Even when you are not together, let her know that you are thinking about her. Text her or give her a brief call from time to time. Let her know that you are always thinking of her and that you want to let her know that.
5) Flirting never hurts Do not be afraid to flirt with her.
This will make her feel sexy and good. You should never flirt with anyone else though. This will usually only make her mad and you may end up getting in a lot of trouble if you do this. Let her know that you are attracted to her.
6) STOP - Listen Listening to a woman is going to get you far.
If you are trying to win the heart of someone, you need to pay attention. Make sure that you listen to everything that she is saying and be sure to make eye contact with her. This will make her feel good and she will defiantly be attracted to you for this.
7) Take an Interest in Her Life Women love men that take an interest in what they are doing and what they are feeling.
Make sure that you are giving them a reason to want to hang out with them. Do the things that she likes to do and spend time getting to know her better. This is something that you will want to do so that she knows that you are interested in her and what she is doing in life. Ask her that her hobbies are and what she likes to do for fun.
8) Honesty IS the Best Policy Women like men that are honest and sincere.
Do not lie to her. This will only get you in trouble. You need to make sure that you are doing what you need to in order to keep the lines of communication open and never make anything up or lie to her. Give her a reason to trust you and never let her down in this way. You may never regain her trust if you do. When you are serious about getting a woman to be attracted to you all of these techniques will help you. Use them to your best interest and take advantage of the things that you can and make sure that you are keeping all of your intentions good when you are trying to make a woman fall in love with you.
Online Safety Tips
The best way to stay safe when using online dating services is to ensure your anonymity. There many information websites and services out that make it easy for internet savvy people to find you via your email, phone, or address. You can stay anonymous and protect your privacy with these ten tips to stay safe when online dating.
Stay anonymous in your profile.
When writing your online dating profile, make sure that you stay completely anonymous. You can give potential dates information about your personality, but never, ever reveal any information that gives them any indication as to where you live or how to get in touch with you.
Sign up for a free email address.
Visit Hotmail, Yahoo! Mail to sign up for a free email address. By signing up for a free email address, you ensure that you stay in control of communicating with potential online dating partners. If you ever feel uncomfortable, you can close the free account and end communications. Be sure to make sure that the email address you chose does not reveal anything personal about yourself.
Keep your address private.
Never reveal your real name, home address, or phone number until you are completely comfortable in doing so. Make sure that you communicate via email until you feel comfortable with your potential date.
Get a P.O. box and/or unlisted phone number.
You may want to sign up for a p.o. box at your local post office and/or unlist your phone number. Your safety is extremely important and signing up for these gives you added safety.
Do not use sexy references.
When selecting your email address or user name, steer clear of any 'sexy' names. You'll get noticed by using one, but generally by the wrong people.
Tell the truth.
You want to protect yourself, but be honest at the same time. Let your potential dates get to know your personality, your likes and dislikes, and your thoughts and feelings. Do not let them know your private information such as location or anything that would identify you. You may also be nervous about using a photo, but rest assured that it's ok to do so as long as you keep your other private information out of your profile.
Trust your gut.
If you feel unsure, threatened, or uncomfortable, DO NOT respond to any further communication. You know when you feel uncomfortable. If you feel that way when talking to a person at the beginning, it's not going to change and you may be putting yourself further in danger.
Beware of the red flags.
Watch out for obvious 'red flags' when talking to people that you have met through online dating. If they are acting suspicious, they probably are not who they say they are. Use common sense and you'll be safe. You can view several online dating red flags here.
Use your email block list.
If you are uncomfortable with any email or IM messages from a member of the dating services, use your block list to keep them from contacting you again in the future.
Don't be afraid to report them.
If you come across any potential dates that are lying, threatening, or mis-using the services, report them to the company.
Stay anonymous in your profile.
When writing your online dating profile, make sure that you stay completely anonymous. You can give potential dates information about your personality, but never, ever reveal any information that gives them any indication as to where you live or how to get in touch with you.
Sign up for a free email address.
Visit Hotmail, Yahoo! Mail to sign up for a free email address. By signing up for a free email address, you ensure that you stay in control of communicating with potential online dating partners. If you ever feel uncomfortable, you can close the free account and end communications. Be sure to make sure that the email address you chose does not reveal anything personal about yourself.
Keep your address private.
Never reveal your real name, home address, or phone number until you are completely comfortable in doing so. Make sure that you communicate via email until you feel comfortable with your potential date.
Get a P.O. box and/or unlisted phone number.
You may want to sign up for a p.o. box at your local post office and/or unlist your phone number. Your safety is extremely important and signing up for these gives you added safety.
Do not use sexy references.
When selecting your email address or user name, steer clear of any 'sexy' names. You'll get noticed by using one, but generally by the wrong people.
Tell the truth.
You want to protect yourself, but be honest at the same time. Let your potential dates get to know your personality, your likes and dislikes, and your thoughts and feelings. Do not let them know your private information such as location or anything that would identify you. You may also be nervous about using a photo, but rest assured that it's ok to do so as long as you keep your other private information out of your profile.
Trust your gut.
If you feel unsure, threatened, or uncomfortable, DO NOT respond to any further communication. You know when you feel uncomfortable. If you feel that way when talking to a person at the beginning, it's not going to change and you may be putting yourself further in danger.
Beware of the red flags.
Watch out for obvious 'red flags' when talking to people that you have met through online dating. If they are acting suspicious, they probably are not who they say they are. Use common sense and you'll be safe. You can view several online dating red flags here.
Use your email block list.
If you are uncomfortable with any email or IM messages from a member of the dating services, use your block list to keep them from contacting you again in the future.
Don't be afraid to report them.
If you come across any potential dates that are lying, threatening, or mis-using the services, report them to the company.
Dating Tips
At birth, did you get a manual as to ‘how’ to use that brain of yours? How to be happy, how to find and keep friends and how to find that ‘special’ person, suitable for you? Have you ever learned how to date? Why is it that some people are so good at dating and others aren’t? What are they doing different? Is it just because they are lucky? Or did they learn how to do it well? And, if so, is it possible for you to learn how to have more success when it comes to dating? How often do you examine what you do? How often do you sit down and think about what processes you use when it comes to the subject of meeting and getting to know another person? Most of us are too busy to function in this world instead of taking the time to find out how we function and how we could function more effectively!
'The Art of Dating'.
1. Ask powerful questions Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other person. For example, you can use words such as what, where and how. These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no answer. Instead they give the other person the opportunity to give a more comprehensive answer. Apart from that you may need to ask more specific questions at certain times. For example, if she says 'I'll call you soon' you may want to ask something like 'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information will avoid misunderstandings!
2. Reality checks Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values are based on your reality, which doesn't mean your beliefs and values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs and values may not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.
3. Avoid assumptions Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...', ask! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight away, it doesn't mean that he or she isn't interested. Perhaps they just need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.
4. Build rapport Rapport is the presence of trust, harmony and co-operation in a relationship. If you have rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner. You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and voice.
5. Be confident Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....ACT AS IF YOU ARE!
'The Art of Dating'.
1. Ask powerful questions Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other person. For example, you can use words such as what, where and how. These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no answer. Instead they give the other person the opportunity to give a more comprehensive answer. Apart from that you may need to ask more specific questions at certain times. For example, if she says 'I'll call you soon' you may want to ask something like 'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information will avoid misunderstandings!
2. Reality checks Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values are based on your reality, which doesn't mean your beliefs and values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs and values may not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.
3. Avoid assumptions Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...', ask! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight away, it doesn't mean that he or she isn't interested. Perhaps they just need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.
4. Build rapport Rapport is the presence of trust, harmony and co-operation in a relationship. If you have rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner. You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and voice.
5. Be confident Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....ACT AS IF YOU ARE!
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